“We define mental health as “not having mental illness”. As being positive all the time. What Mental health should be defined as is being an exceptional human being which is going to include a lot of pain, a lot of disappointment, a lot of discouragement and discomfort. It’s not a rah rah be happy all the time, all you have to do is smile. Do not expect your human life to be happy more than half the time. In fact consider the idea that your ability to manage the other half is what will determine your mental health. The question isn’t how do we prevent these things from happening, the question is how do we use these things that happen as part of our human experience to live the best version of our life possible. Not in fear that horrible things will happen but knowing we have the strength to get through anything.” My Coach and Mentor Brooke Castillo said it beautifully when she said this.
I believe when you are that best version of yourself described here it is then that you will do your best problem solving which can ultimately aide in prevention.
So here’s the reality we live in. Some days are hard. Feel almost unbearable. And yet others are joyous and full of all things happy and beautiful. How can this be? Why is it so? We can debate and discuss till the sun goes down. But here’s what I think we can agree on.
It is.
This is part of our human experience on this crazy ball in the sky.
We don’t know Summer with out Winter.
We don’t know joy with out sorrow.
Love without hate.
Life shows us on the regular that you are going to get both sides while you are here. No matter who you are or what you do. Yea, life is 50% negative and 50% positive.
You can choose to fight against it. Can choose to ignore it. Can even choose to throw your arms up in the air to give up. But there is also another choice. You can choose to embrace it. Lean back and open our arms wide. The wider you are willing to open your arms to pains of life that you are going through the wider your arms are open to welcome the joys. This can be so scary I know. I understand. If you genuinely want strong mental health, which I know you do, you must be willing. It will be uncomfortable. It may be difficult. But friend, I’ve seen you out there in the world you have done hard things. That’s how you rose up to the heights you are at. So I know you can do this. And if you would like I can help show you how.
Love you madly.
Leslie
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