How many times have you started something only to find yourself quitting it within a couple days or weeks.
You were committed to start it, but then the work got hard and uncomfortable, or it got boring. The excitement for it dwindled away. And so you quit. Or maybe you’ve been like me and justified quitting with thinking “this other thing needs my attention more”. Or “I don’t have time”. Maybe it’s “I’m just to busy”. We use these things to talk ourselves out of keeping our commitment and its so subtle we don’t even realize that’s what we are doing.
But then here’s what usually happens. There is so much discomfort so we know we needed to start, then it gets uncomfortable so we stop. But then after a few weeks or months we are back to feeling uncomfortable again because we want to do that thing or we want a change and so we start again. We just take ourselves in circles of starting and stopping.
So here’s the thing, no matter whether we are doing the thing we want to do or not, we are going to feel uncomfortable. So we may as well just keep going so at last we will end up with something worth having and to show ourselves for being uncomfortable.
We always return to the ache in our heart to start again and so
the quitting slows us down.
Our brains like to seek pleasure, avoid pain and expended as little energy as possible. Quitting helps us do just that. There is relief in quitting- that relief brings us pleasure. We won’t have to experience any of the pain from trying to do or learn new things. It takes energy to grow. So our brains would much rather us quit.
If we are going to go in circles of starting and stopping how do we stop the quitting.
It looks like this.
We decide quitting is not an option.
We plan ahead of time so when we start to feel like we want to quite know that is the time to double down.
You will achieve that thing you want, you will loose the weight, mend the relationship, set the boundaries, grow your business, manage your mind. When you take quitting out of the picture.
So go start and don’t stop until you get the result you are after.
Love you madly.
Leslie
P.S. Not sure how to apply this? Email me at leslie.canup.com I can teach you.
