How To Handle Your Overwhelm

I know you are feeling so overwhelmed right now. 

There is so much information coming at you, so many decisions you need to make. Everyone has an opinion about what you should do and how you should do it. In some cases you asked for help and then regretted it because you were flooded with information. Then other times you don’t ask but they offer up their advice and suggestions. You’re to the point now where it is all just noise and you have no idea what to do. So this is where you stay. Overwhelmed and confused. 

I’ve been there. 

And do you know what I’ve learned. Over whelm and confusion are a choice. It’s an option. An option we don’t have to choose. And when we do choose overwhelm and confusion we are actually just indulging in the emotion. Much like we indulge in a big bowl of ice cream after a hard day. 

When we indulge in feeling overwhelmed or confused, we give ourselves permission to not have to make any moves. To stay stuck. Which is actually much more comfortable to us that stepping out into the unknown. We don’t have to make the phones calls, have the conversations, send the emails, fill out the paperwork, do the research, or make the decisions. And we use up so much precious time and energy when we stay in these emotions. We lose time in the confusion and deplete our energy with all the circles we run in our heads.

It’s not actually the things them selves that we should do and it’s not the information itself that is coming at us that is making us feel overwhelmed. It’s what we are thinking about all that information and the things we need to do. It’s what we are thinking it will mean if we do or don’t do those things. 

We’re thinking things like

I have to get it all done. 

There is so much to do. 

I might do the wrong thing. 

They know better than I do.

I might make the wrong choice. 

I don’t have time to do it all. 

I don’t know how to do it.

I don’t know where to start. 

I can’t do this. 

No wonder overwhelm and confusion stick around. 

Okay, take a breath. 

Exhale. 

Now, try thinking about these things for a moment. 

Overwhelm is a choice and I don’t have to choose overwhelm.

I have the exact amount of time I need to get things done.

There is no wrong decision.

I can ask for that information again when I get there if I still need it. 

I can decide to take their advice. 

I can also decide not to. 

I am learning my way through.

I only need to take the next small step.

Did you feel the load of overwhelm start to lighten? Did your shoulders lose a little weight? 

Pick one of these thoughts or something similar to go back to through out your day. This will help you take the single next step and then the next and the next. One small step at a time and before you know it, you’ll be out on the other side with all this behind you. 

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. You got this. I can show you how if you would like. Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com. We'll take it one step at a time.

Finding Your New Normal

You have a challenge before you. 

You are learning to find your new normal. 

It’s going to be a bumpy road ahead. 

It’s going to take a little time to settle in. But you will get there.  

It will all come together again. 

You will find your new routine. 

You’ll find new joys. 

Things won’t ever be the same as they once were and that’s ok. 

From time to time it’ll feel familiar. It’ll feel like the good ol’ days. You can linger in that beautiful connection of the past and the present, but don’t linger there too long or you will miss these days. 

I know you aren’t sure how you are going to re-establish yourself, how you are going to navigate this new place you find yourself in. I also know you have all the answers you need. 

Think for a moment about the future you who has already done it. The you 2 years from now on the other side of this. Ask her, how she did it.  Ask her what steps she took. What things worked for her and what things didn’t. You will be so amazed at the wisdom she has. 

What would she tell you to do today? 

Would she tell you not to worry, it all works out? 

Would she tell you get more sleep? 

Or maybe watch a little less tv? 

Perhaps she would tell you to be confident in your decisions. 

Pray and have faith. 

Or make that phone call. 

She might also tell you to have compassion for yourself and those around you. 

Not to be overwhelmed and start with just committing to 1 day. 

Does she tell you to just keep putting on foot in front of the other? 

Does she tell you to go for a short walk? 

Does she tell you determination looks much better on you than self-pity? 

Does she tell you to ask for help?

Right now very well may be a challenge and you may be trying to figure out your new normal. But you know exactly how to get through it. You have all the resources you need. When you get stuck or are unsure, ask your future self. She’ll tell you what to do next. 

It will all come together. You will settle in.

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. I would love to know what your future self is telling you. Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com and let me know.

The Task I Was Given

I’ve been given the task writing 30 blogs in 30 days. 

I’ve found myself resisting it in some very interesting ways. Telling myself “I’m not a blog writer.” (Proving this by not knowing the term is blogger until it’s pointed out to me in my edits.) “I only do things short and sweet.”  “A social media post is the lengthiest thing I do.” “ My blogs will be short and sweet to the point. So really I’ve been writing my posts all along in Facebook group posts. “

My coach encouraged me to do some thought work around blogging in general and question these thoughts with curiosity. When I sat down to do so I discovered I wanted to avoid the work. Writing does not sound fun to me in anyway. I try to avoid it as much as possible in fact. I just don’t like it. Of course my brain didn’t want to present it that way though. I could be considered lazy or unwilling, maybe even entitled to grow without actually having to do the work. 

Our brains are so sneaky that way. Finding ways to justify what we don’t want to do. What we think we shouldn’t have to do. 

The amazing thing about this is that we were created with the ability to think about our own thinking. That’s what we do in coaching. We learn how to notice our thoughts. We learn how to question them with curiosity. We learn what thoughts we want to keep and which thoughts we want to throw away. We learn what kind of impact our thoughts have on our lives. They have a much bigger impact than you would think.

I’m curious to know, what’s the thing that’s been asked of you? 

What sneaky thoughts are you having? 

Sometimes they’re thoughts like “I don’t have enough time.” “I can’t make that kind of commitment right now.” “I don’t do that.” “I can’t do that.” 

This can all be very valid. Sometimes we genuinely don’t have the time and can’t make the commitment. But they are also worth exploring a little more. Other times we may find we don’t want to make the time or we don’t want to commit. We want to stay comfortable or don’t want to do the work it takes.

So here I am. 31 days later finding myself typing along after taking a little time to look at the thoughts I was having about writing 30 blogs in 30 days. After gently questioning myself, I had decided to change these thoughts to “I’m willing to do the things that don’t sound fun.” “I can do things even if I don’t like them. “ “I can even find a way to like it and make it fun if I want.“

Turns out, I had a lot I wanted to say to you. 
Important things that needed to be said:
Your lovable
Your amazing
Thank you
You can do hard things
You get decide 
And You are seen

This has me wondering what other things is the world missing out on because we resist the task at hand? No I know, it's always worth a second thought.

Thank you for reading along.

 Who knows maybe I’m a blogger after all.

Love you madly. 

Leslie

P.S. Having trouble doing things that are asked of you? Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.comI can help.

I Know You Do This When You Are Unhappy

I know you don’t like to be unhappy. 

You don’t like to feel bored, sad, hurt or unwanted or stressed. And so you try to do whatever you can to avoid it. Working late at night, so you don’t have to be at home and face rejection. Eating ice cream because ice cream makes everything better. Drinking a glass or 2 of wine or a couple beers to relax from all the stress of the day.

We try to avoid our negative emotions. We try to push them away. So we seek pleasure to avoid it at all cost. Really what we are doing is seeking a temporary pleasure, a false pleasure in effort to dull the way we feel. For some it’s overworking, over eating, over drinking. Others it may be Netflix, social media, porn, or video games. It could even be over exercising. It could be a combination of these together. 

This is called buffering. 

We buffer when we want to put space between our emotions and us or to avoid an emotion all together. Instead of feeling the hurt, rejection or stress we do something that we think will make us feel better. And may, for a fleeting moment. 

Imagine an empty wine glass. If you were to tap a knife to that glass it would vibrate quite a bit. Now imagine you filled it with m&m’s and then tap it with the knife again. It wouldn’t vibrate as much because it’s full. This is what buffering does in our body.

Only more times the not, these things end up making us feel even worse afterward. We over work and spend less time at home giving us no possible chance for any connection which is what we really want. We feel awful for eating the ice cream and if we are doing it often enough gain weight which makes us feel worse. We don’t like the way we feel after drinking, we feel dehydrated and end up with headaches. We spend more time in front of a screen and get nothing accomplished then we feel behind and disorganized. 

We shame ourselves on top of everything. And once this activity is over, we still have the original feeling we were trying to avoid in the first place piled under all the negative side effects. 

So how do we fix this you ask? We learn how to feel our emotions. 

I know, I know. I just heard the hard exhale of yours. That doesn’t sound fun. And who wants to feel emotions anyway?  I have to tell you friend. This is the best thing you can ever learn how to do. When you discover the worst thing that can happen is an emotion in your body and you know how to handle any emotion. Everything changes. You have more confidence and strength. You can work through anything and you will get more done. 

So how do I do it? I’m so glad you asked. 

Ask your self what am I feeling right now?

Where do I feel this in my body?

Is it big or small?

Light or heavy?

Is it fast or slow?

Is it tight or loose?

If it had a color what would it be?

Learning to feel your emotions is so worth it. Go on, give it a try through out the week and let me know how it goes!

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. Have questions or want someone to help you stop buffering? I can help. Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com

The Questions You Ask

I see all the questions you have in your head.

Your asking yourself 

Why can’t I get it together? 

What’s wrong with me? 

Why can’t I make this change? 

Why do I always do this? 

Why do I always go back to the beginning? 

Why can’t I loose the weight? 

Why can’t I stay committed? 

Why can’t I get everything done? 

Why is this happening to me? 

Did you know the quality of your life is directly related to the quality of your questions?

When we ask questions we naturally seek answers. The problem here is when you ask these types of questions, you are likely going to get many negative answers. Which help keep you stuck.

When we are willing to change the questions we ask ourselves to questions like these: 

What’s one thing I can do to pull this together? 

What’s right about me? 

How can I learn from this? 

How can I become more organized? 

What can I love about my body the way it is right now? 

Who do I want to be in this? 

We are still going to look for answers. This time however, the answers will help to propel us in the direction we want to go. These questions will create movement for us. We will begin to find reasons to continue to commit and create the future you are wanting. 

Which do you prefer? To stay stuck always trying to over come the same things over and over, finding all the reasons you can’t or don’t? Or to create movement, taking steps toward the life you want. Finding joy and peace in the process? 

Here is what I love about being human. 

You get to decide. 

You get to make the choice for yourself. 

You don’t have to do one or the other. 

But I highly recommend that you choose the second. It will serve you and your dreams soo much better. It will help you to weather the storm instead of being swept away by it. It will get you so much closer to where you want to be. 

Yep, the quality of your life is directly related to the quality of the questions you ask yourself. 

Are you ready to elevate it and take it to the next level?

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. If you are ready to elevate your life with better questions, I can help.  I have opened up 3 spot for free coaching next week. Email me to claim yours. Leslie.canup@gmail.com

Self Made

So often we say we are self made. That no one helped us get to where we are.  We did it all on our own. Or, we think we should be self made. That we should do everything on our own. I would like to challenge that. I believe none of us are self made. 

We are all made from the people who have gone before us. The people we have done life with. Those who have loved us well and the those who didn’t. The people who raised us and the people who didn’t. The people we respect. The people we admire. The people we disrespect. The people we don’t like. The perfect strangers our paths have crossed. They have all helped shape us. 

They have taught us who we want to be. They have taught us who we don’t want to be. They have also shown us the possibilities of who we could be, both good or bad. 

Those who have loved us well taught us how to love. Those who have not loved us well, have taught us the same. They have all had a part in making us who we are. 

It is impossible to become who we are or who we want to be all on our own. We are made by standing on the backs of others. Living or dead. They have shaped us. None of us are self-made. 

When we think of the people in our lives that were not there for us we think they had nothing to do with our success, but often times, they had more impact than we realized. Many times we had thoughts like “I don’t want to be like them.” Or we think something like “I’ll show them I can make it.” So really they very much so made you who you are because they showed you who you are not or they became the motivation to do that thing. 

Imagine if you could thank them for that, if you had genuine gratitude towards them for helping you to call out the best of yourself. The only thing you have to lose, is gratitude. 

Yep, None of us are self-made. We accomplish all we accomplish because of the people who were there beside us and because of the people who weren’t. We built our knowledge based on where those who went before us left off. 

It’s impossible to be self made.

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. Who were the people who made you? I loved to hear about it. Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com

What Were You Thinking

I see you there, questioning why you have taken on the role you have. Thinking how great it would be to go back to waiting on tables or being a cashier. You wouldn’t have so many people watching you. So many eyes on you. You would only have to worry about you, your life and not carrying the weight of everyone else. Not having to pretend you’re something that right now you’re not. Not having to make so many decisions. 

Your thinking “Oh, how much easier life would be if….”

Can I be real with you for a moment. It would likely be easier. 

Easier...until...it’s not. 

Eventually things would get hard again. There would be other situations that will come up. Other things that will happen that will be hard. That’s the way life is. No matter who you are or what you are doing, it’s going to get hard. It’s going to get uncomfortable. 

So why did you take on the role of leadership that you did? You know, the day you said yes to what you are doing. What made you excited about it? What hopes did you have for it? 

Chances are it was because you wanted to  have an impact.You wanted to make a difference. Guess what my friend, in this hard place you have that opportunity to make a difference and have an impact just by being you. There is even a possibility, this is the place the you will make the biggest impact in your role.

I recently heard someone say “It’s not the situation they are watching, but the way it’s being handled.” 

So there is no need to stress or worry about everything that is going on around you right now. Instead decided who you want to be in the middle of it all and be that person. 

This role you have right now, this place of leadership you are standing in, I know sometimes it can be hard. 

But don’t forget what’s on the other side of hard. 

It’s Strength. Wisdom. Celebration.  

Yea, things would be easier if you went back to waiting tables. They would be easier until they aren’t. No matter what your doing it’s going to get hard and uncomfortable. So you may as well pick the one that comes with the most fulfillment. 

Knowing you, that’s being right where you are. 

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. There are times we need someone to come along side us to help us remember why we do what we do. I can do that for you. Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com I’ll show you how. 

In Honor Of 2 Friends

One year ago, an ordinary day was anything but.. 

I sat on my couch, right in the middle of 2 worlds. 

This post is in honor of the 2 worlds I sat between 

and the women who lived in them. 

One was the joy of new beginnings and 

the other the sadness of the end. 

You see, 2 very dear friends of mine were busy rushing about numerous activities to prepare for the day ahead of them. One was preparing for her I do’s. She was getting ready to look into her (very lucky) beau’s eyes and make a beautiful promise of a future they dreamed about together. Exchanging vows of love with excitement and joy in their hearts. Waiting to hear the pastor say "I present to you Mr. and Mrs." All this while the other was preparing for her goodbye to her niece who was at the end of her cancer battle. With a heavy heart preparing for the travels back home. A future was coming to a close. She was waiting for the final phone call.

There I sat on my soft comfy brown couch curled up in a blanket by the armrest, on a cold Minnesota day in April. One moment texting sorrowful prayers, the next, joyful congratulations. My mind was confused. How could my heart feel so much joy for one person and so much sadness for another at the very same time. I also knew both these women well enough to know the Lord was with each of them in their day. That they both had invited him to be there. The idea that God could be in both these moments had me in awe and slightly perplexed. I guess I never really thought about his presence being with others in the way I was seeing it then, from the outside looking in.

I closed my eyes to soak in this moment. 

It was then that there was a whisper to my heart- 

Joy and sadness can coexist. 

I hold one close to my chest and bury them in the safety and comfort of my feathers while the other I let dance in the mist of my breath. 

Then I could see it. I could picture it all, like scenes in a movie. One nestled up against Him, head tucked down curled into the feathers, safe and protected. At the same time I could see the other dancing in His hand with the breath of God swirling all around her.  Even now on this day a year later, I close my eyes and I can see it all again so clearly. 

Yes, my friend. Joy and Sadness can coexist. 

They can coexist with out any guilt. There is no need to question if it’s ok to be happy during a sad time or vise versa. It’s ok to be both. 

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. Ladies, it is a honor to be a witness to your stories.

P.S.S. If you have a good bye, my prayers are with you. And if you are celebrating I send you Congratulations. I’d be honored if you would share them with me. Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com. And if you want a little help walking through either of these or making a little more sense of it all, let me know. I got you.

Things We Cover

Ok, so we need to talk about my toes for a minute. 

I know, I know. This is a topic that grosses some people out. You don’t like feet. I get it. I really do. But stay with me. 

Over the summer I walked in a parade to support of our school’s dance team. By the end of the day my feet were sore. Apparently I wasn’t wearing the right shoes, and my toenails were a little to long. The next day my two big toes had started to bruise under the nail. They hurt, pretty badly actually. I was starting to have trouble walking. Over the coming days my big toes looked uglier and uglier. 

Eventually the pain lessoned, but the bruises remained.

 So I went to my favorite nail salon to get a pedicure. I very rarely get my toes fully painted. But I couldn’t stand the way the nails looked so I picked out a fun dark blue polish so the bruises wouldn't show through and the manicurist began to paint away. 

One thing I have always loved about my body is my feet. I know I’m a little weird like that. But really, they’re little, they’re cute. With the freshly colored toes, my feet were back to lovely. Back to me. 

Only here’s the thing, bruises under your nails never go away. They can only grow out. So even though I couldn’t see the ugly it was still there. Even though I couldn’t see the evidence, my toes still hurt. 

They ached for a very long time. 

The nails began to grow and the polish needed to be replaced. Back to the salon I went. When she removed the color, there it was. I couldn't avoid it. The ugly and the pain were uncovered. 

We try to do the same in our lives. We get hurt and try to cover up the pain and the bruises so that we can no longer see them. But it still remains. It doesn’t go away. We try to pretend it’s not there, but as we walk through life we become tender to the touch, and wince with pain. At some point it’s all uncovered again so that we have to face it. We cover everything up so that it looks lovely on the outside, but yet, we still feel the pain on the inside. 

Here it’s been 10 months since the bruises appeared and they are slowly growing out, at one point part of one of the nails started to fall off. (I hear you gaging. We’re almost done. I promise.) I’ve had to tend to my nails. Clean them. Bandage them and take extra care of them. 

My friend, there comes a point when we have to do the same with our hearts and minds. We need to tend to them. Clean them. Bandage them. Take extra care of them. It can sometimes look a little ugly or unappealing but with enough time and patience, everything will come full circle and it will all become a distant memory. 

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. What’s the bruise you are trying to keep covered up? Do you need help tending to the wound? I’m here. I can show you the best ways to go about it. Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com.

The Things You (don't) Have To Do

I see your mind turning. 

It’s telling you all the things you have to do. 

Let’s take a quick minute and write down all the things you have to do. Go on, go get a piece of paper, junk mail, anything you can write on. And start writing down every single thing. All of it. I’ll wait.

.

.

.

.

.

.

.

.

.

.

.

.

Ok, did you get it all down? The laundry. The meals. The work tasks. The family. The friends. Anything else?

.

.

.

.

.

Now, I want you to look over that entire list. Does it feel like a lot? Does it feel overwhelming? Does it feel impossible to get done? How many of those things have been weighing on your mind now for a while? 

I have a secret I want to share with you. 

Are you ready? 

You don’t have to do any of it.

None. 

You could choose not to do laundry. Not to cook meals. Not to take care of those work tasks. Not to take care of the family or the friends.  You don’t HAVE to do ANY of it. You really don’t. Do you know there are people who don’t do these things? 

Okay so I know your thinking “What are you getting at here?”

When you look at all the things you think you HAVE to do it weighs heavy, and feels like you don’t have a choice in the matter. It feels like you are slave to your surroundings, slave to the needs of others, slave to your work. But when you can recognize that you have a choice in the matter. 

Realize that it’s all optional.

It changes e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g. 

You don’t have to do the laundry. 

You are choosing to wear clean clothes.

You don’t have to fix a meal. 

You are choosing to feed yourself (and others)

You don’t have to take care of the work tasks. 

You are choosing to keep your job.

You don’t have to take care of your family. 

You are choosing to care for them because you love them.

You don’t have to have friendships. 

You choose to have connection.

Lets take it further.

You don’t have to drive the speed limit. 

You choose not to get a ticket.

You don’t have to pay your taxes. 

You choose not to be penalized.

You don’t have to work out. 

You choose to move your body.

Do you see the theme here? You really don’t HAVE to do anything. This is true for everything in life. 

One of my favorite things Tonya Leigh taught me is the 3 D’s.

Delete

Delegate

Delight

There are often things on our lists or in our lives that we can delete. We are doing them because we developed a belief that it’s a requirement. What things on your list do you want to delete?

The next thing to do is see what you can delegate. What are things that others can do? 

And finally, whatever is left, delight in doing those things. Even if it’s taking out the trash. Delight in the idea that your home won’t smell because you are taking out the trash. 

Yep, you don’t HAVE to do anything. You choose to. Own that choice and be proud of your self for what you are choosing to do. Do the things that are most important to you. Ask others to take care of the things they can take care of and delete all the rest.

You will have more time. More energy. More connection. More Joy.

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. I have opened 3 free mini coaching sessions. Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com to reserve yours. 

Thank You

I see you there every day. 

When it’s hard you are there.

When it’s boring you are there.

When it’s easy you are there.

When it’s exciting you are there.

When you are loosing you are there.

When you are winning you are there.

When you are tired you are there.

When you are rested you are there.

You encourage.

You empower.

You uplift.

You fight the good fight.

You do all you can for others.

You teach.

You continue to learn.

You continue to grow.

You laugh.

You cry.

You sometimes shake your fist at the sky.

You take the heat.

You take the praise.

You sacrifice.

You problem solve. 

You give.

You seldom take.

You make dreams reality.

You think outside the box.

You strategize.

You serve.

YOU        SHOW        UP.

You show up for your family. 

You show up for your Community. 

You show up for your career. 

You show up for the people you lead. 

You show up for all of the people you serve.

And I just want to say 

I think you are pretty amazing.

Thank you.

Thank you for serving.

Thank you for leading.

Thank you for being willing.

Thank you for being you.

I know, with out a doubt, the world is a greater place because it has you in it. Don’t believe me? I can ask around and report back to you if you would like. 

Yep, you’re pretty amazing. Incredible. Fantastic. Irreplaceable. 

You are thought of.

You are prayed for.

You are loved.

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. Thank you for showing up. I would love you to email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com so I can thank you by name. 

That Hard Thing You Are Dealing With

Thinking of you today. 

I know right now it’s hard. 

Quite possibly the hardest thing you have ever been through.

I know you struggle because you don’t want word to get out around what’s been going on in your marriage, with your kids, with your bank account. 

You feel like you are screaming out loud in your head and all that’s coming out is silence. You can’t turn to anyone. Because how could any body possibly understand. They all look to you when things are upside down. You are always the one that keeps everyone else together. But how right now? Your wondering how is it you can help everyone else manage their troubles, but yet here you are struggling to manage your own. Thinking no one will understand because to everyone else your life is perfect. It’s what they wished theirs would be. They don’t understand the pressures you have to keep it all together. They don’t understand the sacrifices you have had to make to be there for everyone. Now, those sacrifices have come back to haunt you. They are reminding you of all the should haves, the would haves, the could haves and the didn’ts. Guilt, shame and regret are the new normal for you. It washes over you daily. No matter where you are there is just no escape. You seek comfort in all your favorite places that used to bring you peace. But even there shame finds you. 

Dear one, I know this is hard. It all feels flipped upside down right now for you. I’m here to tell you, it’s going to be ok. This will one day become a distant memory. In the mean time I want to offer to you to choose your thoughts wisely. They are what will determine how you carry through. Take captive every thought. And run it through these questions. 

It’s it Right? 

(completely factual. Not up for interpretation. Completely neutral)

Is it True? 

Is it Pure?

I know you have so much pain in your heart right now. But there is no need to add suffering. They way we add suffering is by the story we tell ourselves about what is happening. We use the story to tell us how we should punish others or ourselves for all the wrong that’s be done. 

So maybe poor choices were made. Maybe it was over night, maybe it was a long time coming. But know this my friend. It doesn’t mean you or anyone else is a bad person. Chances are it was a choice of someone who was scared or lonely.  I’d like to offer you to consider it this way. When you do, you will move into compassion and love. That will change everything. 

You have some decisions ahead of you, you can make them out of guilt and shame and punishment or you can make them out of love and compassion. And love my friend, is always an option. It’s always the best option.

This thing right now, it doesn’t mean you are bad or you are good. It means you are….human.

Yea, I know this is hard right now. And that’s ok. 

You my friend, can do hard things. 

Love you madly.

Leslie

P.S. If you need someone to come along side of you through this hard thing. Let’s chat. Email me at leslie.canup@gmail.com